Sunday, January 20, 2008

Some Questions to Ponder

I'm in a questioning mood and there are several questions I'm pondering tonight. These questions are proving to be quite illuminating so I thought I'd post some of them here for you to ponder too. How would you answer the following questions?

  • What kind of person do I want to be?
  • What kind of friends do I want to have in my life? What kind of friend do I intend to be?
  • How am I choosing to handle my finances? Is it in alignment with the person I want to be? If not, how can I redirect and make better choices that are in alignment with my desired outcome?
  • How do I treat my body? Do I take time to appreciate and nurture it?
  • What kind of boss/employee do I want to be?
  • How do I show up in my relationships? Do I allow other people to make decisions that I should be making for myself? Do I blame others for my choices?
  • Am I showing up for my life? If not, what's it going to take?
  • Am I letting circumstances keep me from being the person I want to be?
  • Am I playing it safe? If yes, why?

I'm also linking a blog post I did titled 100 Things I'd Like to Have People Say About Me because it is in alignment with what we are talking about here. It's a wonderful process for getting you to think about the person you want to be.

Taking time to think about who you want to be and what you want your life to be about is very worthwhile because once you become clear about these things you can start making decisions that are in alignment with your desires. Even if the physical manifestation of what you desire hasn't yet occurred, there is nothing stopping you from being the person you want to be right now.

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

Moving Up The Emotional Scale

A few days ago I had one of those days. I felt blah - not really sick but not really well, not really happy but not really sad, just...well...blah.

I woke up feeling tired. I had worked out in my yard the day before and then woke up the next morning with allergies and then I felt irritated at my body for even having allergies. I needed to wash my hair but I didn't feel like it. The clothes I wanted to wear were not clean so I wore something that I didn't feel like wearing. I had trouble concentrating at work. I kept thinking how much I wanted to be back home wrapped up in my comforter laying on the couch watching my That Girl DVDs.

I got out my notebook to do some writing in order to get clear about what I wanted. I thought about the teachings of Abraham-Hicks and about moving up the emotional scale; I definitely wanted to feel better. I appreciated the things that were in my life and all the things I had to be happy about. I focused on what I wanted and how I wanted to feel. And you know what? I still felt like crap.

Well crap may be a bit of an exaggeration. I did get some momentary relief and felt a tiny vibrational shift. I knew I was moving up the scale to a better feeling place but I didn't like where I was, even with the shift I had just experienced. It still didn't feel good and I wanted to feel better.

Usually doing the processes I just mentioned will immediately give me relief and keep me feeling good, focused, happy and excited about all the wonderful experiences that are on their way. So, why wasn't I feeling better?

Now, for someone like me who is by nature a very happy, positive and upbeat person, feeling blah and crappy is very uncomfortable; it's not in alignment with who I am and therefore it does not feel good. I know that how we feel equals what we attract so I care very much about how I feel and I understand the importance of staying in a good feeling place. Also, it just feels good to feel good.

My friend Frank called to see if I was free for lunch. Given my mood at the time, I hesitated accepting his invitation because I didn't want to blob my negativity on him but something told me to say yes. I met him for lunch and was still in my funk. I didn't want to talk much because I was hoping my mood would pass but I felt the need to mention my situation. After a short chat with him about how I was feeling I felt much better. What changed? I became willing to embrace my blah, crappy feeling and it kind of felt good to do so.

Frank reminded me to embrace how I was feeling instead of fighting it. I think I was trying so hard to feel better that it was actually making me feel worse that I wasn't feeling better. I went back to work and decided that I would just embrace the way I was feeling and that it would be just fine for me to do so. I noticed that I didn't feel better immediately but my vibration shifted slowly throughout the day and when it was time to go home I was in a completely different place emotionally and I was feeling so much better.

I realized that I was having trouble moving up the emotional scale because I was reaching for thoughts that were too far out of my vibrational range. Embracing how I felt allowed me to release resistance to feeling bad and when I did I was able to start moving up the scale one better feeling thought at a time.

Thursday, January 3, 2008

How To Get Happy About Where You Are

Look for things about where you are that you appreciate and that make you happy and then pretend the rest. Remember that the Universe will match the story you are telling. Begin to mentally live from the place of your manifested desires.

For example, if it's a wonderful relationship that you desire, imagine how it would feel to be in the relationship, how you will be in the relationship and then BE that person.

No matter what your desire is, as you can start to live from that place mentally, you will begin to prepave it into your life experience.